I live in Lagos Nigeria, one of the busiest cities in West Africa. Lagos is known for the hustle and bustle, its more like the whole of Nigeria converges on a daily basis to sell things to each other. One of the lessons I have learned as a Lagosian by residence is that you have to be fast, have the ability to switch mood(also known as changing here in Nigeria) and generally just feel the need to boast about your imaginary wealth to people who don’t care.

There are a lot of things to be excited about, and there are a lot of things to marvel about, I think these are the unique things that make up Lagos. I can only say a little about this beautiful city, but I assure you, if you love comedy, you would love to be in Lagos, but for this post you’re reading, its basically me trying to wrap my head around how you can maintain your sanity as a Spirit filled human and still live here like nothing happens.

I went to a restaurant that I usually eat at and I had to give some feedback to the manager. It was about food I had ordered the previous weekend. Let me tell you the story in full. I placed an order for fish pepper soup via the WhatsApp chat of the restaurant, and while the attendant was discussing with me, I decided to place a call to add some extra things to what I was ordering and explain elaborately what I wanted. Long story short, I got goat meat pepersoup instead of fish and when I called to inquire, the lady on the other end said to me “So what do we do about this error ma’am?” I was livid. What? After spending that money on delivery? How can you be asking me what we should do. Oh my, I couldn’t believe it. After several minutes of futile back and forth, I decided to let the matter be.

That is the abridged version of the story, and so I talked with the manager and the person in question tendered and apology and all swords were drawn back. Eventually, I found her at a corner of the room bitterly complaining about the fact that she got scolded by her supervisor. eventually, I had to find a way to apologize to her for giving my feedback. before I apologized, I kept on wondering why the heck she was upset, I mean, I gave my feedback so why? I got to realize that I shouldn’t leave there with someone upset with me and so I apologized to her. I had to. She smiled, I smiled, we all left happy.

This is Lagos, a city where the customer and the service provider are both right but ultimately, you might just have to let go of some things for peace to reign eventually. In all, I believe choosing peace above all else is worth everything.

Life can be quite overwhelming most times. The reality of adulthood can hit you very quickly, mostly because we are never really prepared for the responsibility of life.

As young adults, we are really quick to ‘gain freedom’ and live ‘independently’ but many at times, it is not quickly realized that that can be a great challenge for life, but I’m sure some may choose to disagree.

I grew up as a young girl in the city of Lagos, Nigeria. Had a decent education and was never really over the top with my relationships(that is to say I kept a decent company, still do). Somewhere along the lines of growing, I wanted to be on my own, I wanted to have that kind of independence that Elsa(from frozen) had.

Fortunately, that can be a good thing, but for a young girl like me who had nursed this desire so much, it came to pass one day, when I found myself alone, finally, I had the freedom I desired, but it came with a price. I began to see the quirkiness of ‘being alone’.

Now this might not mean much to many people outside of Lagos Nigeria, but it does mean a lot here, trying to figure out life on your own when everything seems to be working against you, where it seems like things are put in place to specifically mitigate against your growth financially, mentally or even physically most times.

What I did was to quickly realize that life is not all that straightforward, there are always lessons to learn and lessons are never easy. Sometimes lessons come over and over again and life keeps teaching you till you decide to learn it and never take that path again or advance your methods.

The biggest lesson I have learned so far is FINANCIALLY, and money is one thing that everyone has in common. I learned, that if you try to hurry to be rich, you might not be innocent. This is a wise saying from one of the wisest men who ever walked the earth -King Solomon.

So before you hasten to do anything, remember these 3things;

1. You’re in competition with no one.
2. Take like one step at a time.
3. Breathe and tell yourself ‘you’re doing fine’

You can definitely be sure, it will turn out fine in the end and your lessons learned will all be worth it.

We all came into life as a gift to our parents, as hope for humanity that the change they tought was possible.

As we began to grow, we began to learn the ropes of; selfishness, meanness, anger, bitterness, bullying and the likes. As you look at life, you’d see that life is better lived on the flip side, where there’s kindness, selflessness, patience, joy, peace, ultimately where there is Love.

A lot of times we find life beating us and so we react to life rather than respond to it. We make those mistakes we never dreamed about making and now it seems like this adulthood requires a lot more work than we thought, that constantly we might have to do much more work to attain that perfect mind and body we hope for.

Self discipline and continuous learning are the things that would make us dare to even begin to excel

I have been a victim or if I’m to better put it, a great student of mistakes. Trust me when I say this, there are lessons I have had to learn countless times, whether relationship lessons, financial lessons, or character lessons. Sometimes I feel like life says to itself “I’d like to teach a lesson today- well, let me teach her then”. 😅😅. But there’s one thing I’m sure of, it’s that I am super grateful for the lessons, and I’m blessed to learn more on a daily basis.

Well then, here are some things I have picked up over time on how you can be that gift of a person you were originally meant to become in life.

• Get rid of anger, don’t let it get the better of You .
• Be respectful to people, you’re not always right.
• Be very kind, kindness is what will eventually bring everyone together.
• Regardless of what you face, keep living.
• The most important of all, don’t live for yourself, live for others(live to help people) you would see how fulfilled your life would turn out to be.

Eventually, the more we look at life as a gift, the easier it is to live. Seeing life from the next persons point of view would help to see that its not that deep *inserts a smile*.